The greatest thing a Father can do for his children is to love their Mother. When children see the Father showing affection to their Mother, this gives them a great sense of security and an example of a Godly marriage. When parents treat each other with respect and love, the children will learn much more by example than by words.

Parents must always present a united front before their children. When it comes to discipline, the child must see the parents agree on whatever is necessary to teach the child that rules are for their own good and not something to be broken without consequence. If the parents disagree regarding anything to do with the children, they should disagree privately and reach conclusions beyond the children's hearing. If not, children will use one parent against the other and bring division between the parents. Discipline is necessary to a child's security. If a child has no boundaries or limits, he feels terribly insecure. Definite limits give a child a sense of safety. The people he loves will not allow him to go into evil or dangerous situations. The Father who does not discipline his children is a Father who is undisciplined himself and disobedient to God's will.

Prov 22:15

15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him. (NKJ)

When God's Word speaks of the rod of correction, it speaks of loving discipline, not abuse.

The Mother is the heart of a family. She is the one everyone comes to for comfort and tenderness. The Father is the head and the strength of the home. He must lead. When a Family gets in trouble, it is often because the Father is not exercising his role as leader. Many of the problems in the world today are due to dysfunctional families. It is often necessary for a woman to take the role of head of the family, if the Father cannot or will not lead. However, this is not the way that God intended families to function. A woman is not equipped to be both Father and Mother and she cannot function well in both roles. When the Father is truly head of the family he will see that the children are respectful, honest and that they fulfill their duties in school and at home.

Eph 6:1-4

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise:

3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth."

4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (NKJ)

The Mother will oversee the children. However, it is the Father who enforces the rules. The Father is not a tyrant. He is loving and concerned and helpful. If the children are having problems, he will help them or find help for them. He will always be the leader. The best way to lead is by example. If he wants the children to pray, he must pray. If he wants the children to be honest, he must be honest. If he wants the children to work hard, he must work hard.

1 Tim 5:8

8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (NKJ)

Telling children to do something doesn't work. We must all do what is right and they will learn from our example.

If you want your children to grow up in the fear and knowledge of the Lord, raise them in God's Word, going to Church, Praying in the home and loving one another. If you thank God for each meal and have a prayer time in the home with the children, they will come to know that God is real in their lives. Raising children today to love and fear God is not easy. The world fights you for their attention. If you plant the seeds early and give them truth and God's Word from an early age they will have a foundation of Jesus Christ as Reality in their lives.

Prov 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. (NKJ)

Even if they stray along the way, they will return. That is a promise from God.

Mal 4:5-6

5 Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the LORD.

6 And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers........"                                               

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