The Family was created and formed by God, Himself.

Gen:1:27-28 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.  28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. KJV)

Marriage is from God.

Gen 2:22-24
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (KJV)

God told man that his role was to be ONE with his wife. There is no higher relationship on the earth than the combined role of Husband and Wife in marriage. All others are secondary to the marriage relationship. If you were to build a house, you would measure and count the cost and be sure each step of the process is exactly right and according to plan. In marriage, if the Foundation is Jesus Christ, then as the husband and wife are joined together with Jesus, the relationship will grow and flourish as a firmly constructed building.

1 Cor 3:11-13 11 For no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 12 Now if anyone builds on this foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, 13 each one's work will become clear; for the Day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire; and the fire will test each one's work, of what sort it is. (NKJ)

The husband in marriage, must do as the Bible tells him:

Eph 5:25 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (KJV)

This is not an emotional love, or a sexual love (although both are a part of a husband's love) but a totally committed, unselfish, giving love.

This kind of love is concerned with the wife's well being in all areas of her life. This kind of love gives without expecting anything in return. This kind of love does not hold onto any wrongs done to it but is sacrificial and totally committed to the partner.

When Jesus Christ is the foundation of a Marriage and a Family, His principles will be established in the home and in the way we relate to one another. When we give our lives to Him, He guides us in our daily actions and reactions. It is good to have Jesus Christ Himself, through His Holy Spirit, showing us the way to a happy and peaceful and fulfilled life. When I was first married, it was a time of adjustment. Sometimes differences can be very frustrating. I remember asking God what to do in the midst of a frustrating time. The Lord told me very clearly to "Love Him" (meaning my husband). I didn't really want to at that moment, because I was angry. I felt like a pin had been stuck right in the middle of all my self-righteousness. I was puffed up like a balloon and God just told me to "Love Him." I have found that Love is the answer in most situations with husband and wife. Most men just want their wives to be happy and love them. That really isn't a lot to ask.

Too often in marriage, resentment is built like a wall, brick by brick. If we hold onto anger and the wrongs we feel our partner has done to us, our marriage will fail. The only way to a successful marriage is daily forgiveness and a conscious effort to see the best qualities in our partner, not their shortcomings. The Bible tells us:
Eph:5:33 33: However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (NIV)

A woman wants her husband to love her and think that she is beautiful. She wants her husband to be her friend and companion. A man would rather have his wife respect him than anything else. A husband wants his wife to believe that he is the best and handles everything well. Other aspects of their relationship are important but when she sees him as capable and a real man who makes her happy, then the husband feels he has a successful marriage. When the wife complains and talks only about the things she doe not like, the husband thinks his marriage is unsuccessful. It has been evident that a woman who really trusts her husband with every area of her life, has a happy husband. When your husband is so respected that you feel confident that anything you place in his hands, he will handle in the best way possible, you have a secure and good marriage. When you are first married, you don't have this security. As the wife trusts God and then little by little places things in her husband's hands, she will learn to trust him with everything. As he handles things well and sees his wife happy with the results, the marriage grows stronger. If a woman wants a happy marriage, she need only to do what the Bible tells her and that is to respect her husband. If she does, he will live up to that respect and make her very, very happy. Loving him is a part of that respect. Submitting to your partner sounds like it makes you less than the other person. That is an incorrect interpretation. Submitting to your husband is being in partnership. God has made the man the head of the family. This is not a role of authority as a tyrant. It is a role of responsibility. The husband's role is to answer to God for all the decisions made in the family. He has to pay the price for the things which the two of you decide are best for your family. He consults you. You look at all aspects of the issues together, pro and con. However, the final decision lies with the husband since whatever consequences result, he will have to bear the burden. Before a decision is made on anything of consequence, he must count the cost. In the role God has given husbands in marriage, the husband must consider God's perspective on every decision. The wife will answer to the husband but the husband must answer to God.

Gen. 3:17 Then to Adam He said, "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, "You shall not eat of it": "Cursed is the ground for your sake; in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life. (NKJ)

There is a price to pay for disobedience to God. There is also a blessing for obedience. The husband has a much heavier responsibility in marriage. The Bible tells him to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. Christ died for you and me. We are the Church. God asks your husband to love you so much that he is called on to give his life for you. That is a self-sacrificing kind of love. That is unselfish and totally giving. When a husband and wife live in relationship with each other and Jesus as the center of their lives, they will not build walls of resentment.

The Bible says: Eph 4:26 26 "Be angry and do not sin:" do not let the sun go down on your wrath, (NKJ)
Sometimes it is really difficult to forgive when anger burns inside you. When you live in relationship with God and He tells you specifically not to go to bed angry, you really have to work at forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a feeling. As hard as it is to believe when you are feeling rage, Forgiveness is an act of the will. To kiss goodnight when you feel only anger takes great self control and a deep decision to forgive. I have looked back the next morning and could not even understand "why" I had been so angry. Forgiveness heals me. It heals the person who forgives. Bitterness and anger are like a cancer in the flesh. They hurt the person feeling these terrible emotions and they are cancerous to a relationship.

Mark 11:24-26
24 "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them and you will have them. 25 "and whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. 26 "But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." (NKJ)

Every day of our marriage we have a choice. We can look at our partner and our marriage and see the positive things or we can look and see the negative. If you look at a person through the eyes of love and see their good points, they will have more and more good things about them. If you magnify their faults, they will have greater and greater faults. Our marriages can bloom like flowers in the sunshine. They can also wither and dry up from lack of nourishment. Love for the other person is the food and water of the marriage relationship.

Luke 6:38
38 "Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you. (NKJ)

The principles of the Bible are the opposite of the world. The world believes that by hording things, we become rich. The bible teaches that by giving, we receive more and more. From life experience I know that by giving love, love is given back to me. The more I give to a relationship, the more trust develops and with trust comes happiness and depth.